The consequences of having sex before MARRIAGE

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Gone were the days when virginity was held in high esteem. Today if a mature person says he or she is a virgin he or she might be laugh to scorn. You will look upon as a timid or uncivilized person. People who are virgin are ashamed to say it in public for fear of being looked down.


In Bible times mothers use to keep the stain cloth of blood of their daughters in the night of marriage to proof their daughter virginity.


Today youths boast of how many people they have had sex with shamelessly. This promiscuous act has cost society lost of pains. Pains because of sex before marriage, it has economical, societal, psychological, emotional, and spiritual problems to the person involved.


Much has been said about the other problem of premarital sex but very little has been said about the spiritual implication of premarital sex.


The devil has done much damage to youths by making them to commit fornication. Yes fornication is premarital sex. Damages which could not be repair have been inflicted on young promising persons and they have to live with it for the rest of their life.


Premarital sex dangers includes Abortion, abandonment of babies, unwanted pregnancy, premature parenthood, ungodly soul ties, sexual transmitted diseases, etc


God knew that there dangers in premarital sex that is why He wants us to flee youthful lust.


2 Tim 2:22
Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart

The only way to avoid all these problems is to avoid premarital sex. Sex Education has encouraged preventive measures like using of condom, but statistics has shown that condom has failed in stopping dangers in illicit sex. Cases where condom linkage and tire has been reported, condom cannot stop the passage of demons in sexual intercourse.


The devil has decided to destroy the world by making our youths to indulge in sexual immorality. They have taken premarital sex as a normal thing and a way of life. No wonder the Bible says there is a way that seems right to man but the end is death.


Prov 14:12
There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death

I will try to categories the dangers of premarital sex into two broad categories, the spiritual and the general effects.

THE SPIRITUAL EFFECTS

The spirit world is not seen with the physical eyes but their actions are felt. The spirit world controls the physical world. Before anything come to manifestation in the physical world it was first concluded in the spirit world. To see the spirit world we use the eyes of our heart, our imaginations, visions, pictures and dreams. The spirit world is an active world. We are all spirit as spirit we live in a body and we have a soul. The spirit part our being can see into the spirit world and relate with it well. Let me give you an example, if we want to build a house the builder would first see a picture of what he want to build and draw it in a paper that is he seeing into world of the spirit to bring the house into existence. That is how simple the world can be described.


Now see the spiritual effect of premarital sex.

1. IT IS A SIN.

Since premarital sex involves two people who are not married in other word it is fornication. God want us to abstain from fornication


1 Thess 4:3

For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication

God will judge all those involve in the sin of fornication. No fornicator will enter into the kingdom of God.


1 Cor 6:9
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind.


Fornicators attract the anger of God against them. It is a dangerous thing to fall into the anger of God,

Col 3:5-6
5 Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:

6 For which things’ sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience

In Bible times under the law anybody caught in premarital sex is worthy of death. Deuteronomy 22:13-21. The person caught in the act of fornication is stone to death.
Before the Law of Moses fornicators are burnt to death. Gen 38:24. This was seen in the case of Tamar the widow who was found with pregnancy the people were about to stone her to death before it was discovered that Judah was responsible of her pregnancy.


In the early church fornicators were excommunicated from the church. 1 corinth 5:1-12.
The sin of fornication was the only reason a man is permitted to divorce his married wife not adultery. If a man discovered in the night of marriage that his wife is not a virgin he has every right biblically speaking to divorce his wife. Only on the ground of fornication can divorce be granted. Jesus speaking in Matthew 5:32.


Matt 5:32
32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

The sin of fornication is a very serious sin just like any other sin. Every other sin affects not the body but only the sin of fornication.

2. THE SIN OF FORNICATION BRINGS MORE SIN.

Most premarital sex ends up in pregnancy, sicknesses, and abandonment or sale of babies. The rate of abortion has increase because of the increase in premarital sex. Involving in premarital sex is a sin of it own, but committing abortion is murder which adds to the first sin of fornication. Almost all today youth must have committed murder before reaching the age of 25 years. Some of them abandon their babies in dustbin, gutters and other public places, which is an increase to their original sin of fornication. Some secretly sale their babies to ready buyers who use the babies for rituals or resale them to wealthy couples who could not bear their own children. One sin leads to so many sins. King David in the Bible suffered multiple sin after committing adultery with Bathsheba. He murdered Uriah the husband of Bathsheba.

3. IT CREATES AN UNGODLY SOUL TIE.

 A soul tie is an agreement one enters with another that creates a special bond between the two of them. Soul ties are normal and exist every where. Husband and wife, parent and children, teacher and students, pastor and members, employer and employees.
Sex is not just a casual fun thing as most people think and take it to be. It is much more than that, it involves blood. The Bible says life is in the blood.


Lev 17:14
For it is the life of all flesh; the blood of it is for the life thereof: therefore I said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall eat the blood of no manner of flesh: for the life of all flesh is the blood thereof: whosoever eateth it shall be cut off.

When you have sex with a person you have given a part of your life to that person and in return the person has given you part of his life in the spirit realm. In the spirit realm the two of you have become one. You start to share things in common. That is why diseases, sickness, demons and many things pass through during sexual intercourse. In addition you have just created a soul tie between you and the person involved.


Since God does not permit sex before marriage it becomes an ungodly soul tie in the eyes of God. That is why most girls find a special liking or memory in the day of disvirginity, the blood that flows out that day becomes the blood of the covenant or agreement. In fact the day of disvirginity is a day of blood covenant in a sexual intercourse between the woman and the man and it should not be taken lightly. The bond is like the bond between a baby and mother after delivery on first sight.
In Genesis 34 Shechem the prince of land of Hivite committed fornication with Dinah the daughter of Jacob. The soul of Shechem clave unto Dinah, first it was lust, then came love yet it was ungodly.

4. IT FRAGMENTIZE YOUR SOUL.

Since sexual intercourse creates soul ties each person you have sex with you have given a part of your heart or soul to the person in the spirit realm. That is why people who were promiscuous before settling down for marriage find it difficult to settle with just their wife or husband. If a person have slept with a thousand persons his life, love, heart, and several other things has been shared with these thousand persons. If you take a close look at society you find out that promiscuous persons find it difficult to have a fulfilling married life, because the person has share his/her life with several other people. Most promiscuous persons are involved in extra marital sex they are never satisfied with one person, just for no reason, always looking for their lost soul. It is dangerous to engage in premarital sex. It can affect your marriage in the future.


5. IT PASSES DEMONS TO YOU. 
This is perhaps the most worrisome part of premarital sex. If only I knew that I can contact demons in my early days of sexual escapade, may be I would have avoided it completely. Unknown to me demons and other problems gained entrance into me legally during sexual intercourse how? Because the Bible says if we join our body with a harlot we become one flesh with the harlot that explains it.
1 Cor 6:16

What? Know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? For two, saith he, shall be one flesh .

The two persons even if they are not married have automatically become one that moment according to the Bible. Everything that is transferable in the blood can easily be transferred that time. One of such things that moves are demons, demons thrives in sins and immorality. If the person that you are having sex with has slept with 100 persons automatically you have been connected to these 100 persons in the spirit realm. You have in common all possible transferable problems in all the 100 persons in you. Have you not hear stories how serpents move from a person that is a witch into the other person during sexual intercourse. It is common to watch movies like this in our Nigeria home video, they are not mere acting they happen and they are real and verifiable.

Young men and women your life is more important than just 5 minutes of enjoyment. Sex it for your future spouse.

O! many young boys and girls thought they are enjoying life having sex with several people, unknown to them like me they are gathering demons into their life which will turn out to destroy them in their later years.

I was a victim, I slept with so many, even the ones I suspect to be possess I could not refrain myself. Thank God for His mercy upon my life, He has rescued me from the hands of death through illicit sex? What if I had AIDS, or got possessed with a demon that could have destroyed me.

That God is still around, He is presently with you now as you are reading this book. Are you involved in premarital sex? Please desist from it now and the God that helped me will help you.

Demons are spiritual beings, which possess the souls of men. Demons torments and brings problem to humanity. They are wicked; they never want the success of any person, especially Christians. That is why it is dangerous for a child of God to be involved in fornication. The demons master is the devil himself, he has sent them to steal, kill and destroy the creatures of God. The devil knows how much God loves us and he has determined to put sadness in God’s heart but he has fail again like other times. God has sent me to tell you the truth about premarital sex so that you can desist from it. God loves you so much He gave His only begotten son to die for your place, so that you can come back to him. The thoughts God has for you are thoughts of peace to give you an expected end.

Jer 29:11
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.


Sin only destroys you and makes you full of regrets. No one that indulges in sin ends well. Most big stars like Michael Jackson died miserable without Christ.

The devil has targeted the youth so that he can start destroying them before they manifest their talents and gifts. God encourages us to Remember Him in our days of our Youth

Eccl 12:1
12:1 Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them

What I am telling you now you will not see it in sex education teachings nor will you hear it in normal Anti-premarital sex campaign. It is the most dangerous part in premarital sex. The devil has carefully avoided these aspects of the truth in sex education. Some have taken preventive measures to avoid certain dangers in premarital and extra-marital sex; no preventive measure can stop the transference of demons. Condoms and other measures can prevent disease but not demons.

Sex is a wonderful experience wait for the right time which is in marriage.

6. IT PASSES DEMONS TO YOUR GENERATIONS. 

When you contact demons in an illicit sex affair. It remains if not case out and is transfer to born and unborn children. Your children are your blood and flesh multiplied. God Himself permits it

Ex 20:4-5

4 Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth:

5 Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me

Please do not allow the pleasure of 5 minutes enjoyment to destroy you and your unborn generations. Moses chose to suffer with the Israelites than to enjoy the pleasures of sin with the Egyptians.
Heb 11:24
By faith Moses, when he was come to years, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter

25 Choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God, than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season.


The pleasure of sin are temporal, they are not lasting. They are deceit from the pit of hell to destroy the great destiny God has given you. If not for anything look at the life of your children and stop premarital sex. If you continue in the sin of fornication it becomes iniquity and is transferable. Any sin that becomes a habit is iniquity.

7. YOU SIN AGAINST YOUR OWN BODY.

 Every sin you commit affect you aside the body, but the sin of fornication is against your own body.

1 Cor 6:18
18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body


Sinning against your own body means to lack confidence, to hate yourself and have regrets for defiling the body. Many youth after engaging in premarital sex often fell unworthy to associate with people especially if they are starting it new. They become ashamed of themselves before their parents and the church. They withdraw to regrets for doing something they felt morally wrong. They start worrying of pregnancy, disease. Guilt start to creep in. if not handle can ruin their future. Some youth who use to have platonic relationship with the opposite sex, only find that relationship destroy when sex is involved. 

8. PREMARITAL SEX IS NOT LOVE BUT LUST. 
Love is from God. Love gives unconditionally and it can wait. Lust is from satan. Lust is selfish and wants immediate gratification. A boy or girl who truly loves you will not demand of sex as a condition to proof your love for him or her. Love is patient, is longsuffering and endures. A person who loves you wants the best for you.

1 John 4:7
7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God

John 3:16
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life

1 Cor 13:4-8
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,

5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;

6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;

7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

8 Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away

A person that demand sex before marriage only wants to satisfy his/her desires to satisfy a lust. He wants immediate gratification and may not care about the future. Many engagements planned for marriage have been called up after they involved in sexual intercourse. The man or woman only wants the other person’s body and not commitment. Be wise. Be sensitive. Look out for the devil sometimes he comes in sheep clothing. His mission is to destroy the blessing God has given you. In 2 Samuel 13:12-14. Amnon lust over Tamar he deceives their father David and slept with Tamar he later discovered that what felt was lust not love. There are many young men out there with the spirit of Amnon who deceive women to bed only to abandon them after getting what they want .SEX. Sex is for life. Marriage is for life.

OTHER DANGERS OF PREMARITAL SEX

9. PREMATURE PARENTHOOD. 

Most children have become mothers and fathers because of premarital sex. These boys and girls are still children in the real sense of the word. They have no house of their own; they are still in school and have not understood psychologically what it takes to be a parent. Some whose parent can not afford to take care of them and their children have been force to early parenthood. The life of parenthood is sacrificial. These young boys and girls are not emotionally, physically, and financially ready to handle the demand of children. It makes them to start life poorly and with responsibility.

10. PREMARITAL SEX BRINGS GENERAL PROBLEM. 
Every body that was involved in premarital sex in the Bible experienced one problem or the other. The Israelites that committed fornication in the wilderness died up to 23,000 just in one day.

1 Cor 10:8
Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand


Amnon who committed fornication paid with his life as Absalom the brother of Tamar killed him. 2 Samuel 13. 

Shechem was another person that committed fornication with Dinah the daughter of Jacob, Shechem paid with his life and all his family members also died, because the brothers of Dinah killed them.
Today the price of fornication is still very high. The truth is that the prize is still death. Aids is a life threatening disease and many other sexually transmitted diseases. Demons enter into people to kill steal and destroy the gifts, talents and blessings of God.

11. IT MAKES YOU MARRY THE WRONG PERSON. 
The result of most premarital sex is pregnancy, in most cases the man is force to marry the woman whom he impregnated. Later in the marriage the man or woman only discovers that the person is not compactable with him or her. Marriage is for life. Is something that you carefully and prayerfully select a partner who you will spend the rest of your life with? Don’t allow premarital sex make you marry somebody that you don’t know, somebody that has not proof his/her love for you in courtship and more importantly the approval of God. Many today are in the wrong marriage because they involve sex into their relationship when it was not time, especially for women who are erroneously thinking that, all a man need is sex and if they can give him sex they have fulfill their role in the relationship but far from it a man need more than a sex mate. We have to ask ourselves questions like compatibility, supportiveness, friendship, and many more.
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